Big Girl Panties

I have always been that person who was afraid to confront anyone, if someone treated me unfairly instead of speaking up I would distance myself from the person and limit our interactions. And boy has it worked for me, that meant I never had to confront anyone. This brought me a tiny bit of peace but it meant I was suppressing my voice and not being heard and that is no way to live – frustrated with a lot of internal dialogues on how I should have handled a situation differently. I blame it on my introvertedness, it meant I was afraid to put on my Big girl panties and face situations head on.

I am now a young professional who is busy building a career in a workplace that is competitive, loud, filled with bullying andĀ egos flying high. I will admit now that there were times I would go in the bathroom and bawl my eyes out after a disagreement with someone.

That was then, yesterday I found myself in a situation were I had to decide from one of the following:

  1. Allow myself to be walked over,
  2. Keep quiet and limit my interaction with the person
  3. Put on my Big Girl Panties and stand up for myself for the first time.

After a few tears and a lot of prayers I chose to stand up for myself and protect me for the first time and man do I feel good. I learned to defend myself in a non confrontational manner so I still reserved my energy. I stood by my truth today and I could not be any prouder.


  1. Teresa

    July 24, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    I’m very proud of you too! Being an introvert and avoiding confrontation myself I can definitely relate to what you are saying. So, once again, good for you!

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